I would really like to know why people find it necessary to say to me "I'd really like to know what happened to you". It is said to me a lot, mostly at church. Mostly by people praying over me/for me. Actually, it's never been said in that "I haven't seen you in 20 years and you look crap. I'd like to know what happened to you" way. It's always said in a "Wow!!! You're pretty screwed up. I'd like to know what happened to you" type of way. It's pretty disheartening. Really. I mean, if I'm coming up for an alter call, I obviously have issues I am dealing with. Everyone has issues, by the way. Just sayin'... I'm there for a reason, and I do share that reason. What's the point of having someone pray for you if they don't know what they are praying for? I figure the more the pray-er knows the better they can pray, right? I'm also thinking that different people are at different places, ya know? I am probably not at the same point as my designated pray-er( I know there is a different word for this, but work with me here. LOL) At what point does it become necessary to dump the "I'd really like to know what happened to you" thing on me? You know what, I'd really like to know what happened to me, too. It must be something huge. I mean, it comes up a lot..A LOT!!!
I'd like to think it's just an "I'm concerned" type of thing. I'm not sure, though. Visions of people listening to tape recorded sessions sessions with a therapist, pencils at the ready to take notes and tear apart my life come to mind every time I hear that phrase.
I suppose I could see a therapist. Again. I've tried that. I got the whack-a-do therapist who wanted me to sing to myself. Seriously.. In his office..To myself.. Out loud..Whitney Houston, no less..The Greatest Love of All... Seriously... It was nuts. I know I have issues, but I also know I don't have that many issues. LOL In all honesty, I'm good with myself. I'm gaining more confidence. I'm becoming stronger in myself. I can stand up for what I believe in. Life is pretty good. Then the "I'd really like to know what happened to you" hits. UGH.
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Denise, these people who say such things to you are far from knowing how to be socially polite, respectful and most of all, if you ask me, they are very insensitive. AND it is none of their buisness. I understand how you feel, as I have received many non respectful comments about me, my health, my appearance when I gained alot of weight and was not feeling great. I was shocked everytime and hurt. If you can, you should calmly reply to them that it is very irrespectful and that it hurts your feelings. No further discussion... don't start explaining why you aren't feeling good. It's none of their buisness.
You know I even got too many non wanted comments when I had lost 100 lbs 9 years ago... *oh you look great, oh you are so pretty*...it got anoying and to me it also hurt me, because my conclusion was---was I so ugly before?... kwim?
I hope my comment heps you. I send you hugs and comfort. ((((HUGS)))) You ignore those people or you tell them your thoughts. Lucie xx
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